What constitutes a crazy woman? If you ask some men, they’ll say we’re all crazy … to which I usually respond with, “Well, it’s your fault!” I am then, at least by the men in my life, defined as crazy.
Honestly, I think we’re all a little mad, and I don’t really think there’s anything wrong with that.
But to tag women as “crazy” is more than just saying she’s crazy in the same way everyone else is. It’s almost as if it’s a brand unto itself, an adjective that speaks volumes, and those volumes are plucked right out of Fatal Attraction.
Was Glenn Close’s character “crazy” in that movie? Hell yeah. Because boiling bunnies does make for craziness.
As my friend Sabrina explains it, “An actual crazy woman is someone along the lines of Gone Girl. However, ‘crazy’ gets thrown around a lot for a lot lesser crimes, mainly because we have emotions … being called crazy when actually, you’re just sad, mad, angry, disappointed, or hurt. You wanted to act like an asshole and get away with it and I called you out on it? Sorry, I’m not ‘crazy’ because I inconvenienced you.”
Obviously, men and women still differ on the topic.
YourTango asked six guys what makes a woman “crazy,” and here’s what they had to tell us.
1. She has zero rationale.
“A ‘crazy’ woman is someone who just can’t hear or accept the truth of a situation. It’s like there is something standing in the way of rationale, so she keeps digging and digging, and it feels like she’s enjoying pushing you to the brink.”
2. She has unrealistic expectations.
“I would say that a ‘crazy’ woman is defined by her relationship expectations being in direct conflict with actual reality, resulting in the punishment of unwitting and undeserving men without exercising anything that resembles reason or accountability.”
3. She has a neck tattoo.
“After years in my business, I can say that a ‘crazy’ girl is one who gets a tattoo on her neck. She may seem OK at first, but for some reason, any girl who gets tattooed there has some serious underlying amounts of crazy just waiting to bubble over. It’s a strange marking of sorts.”
4. She has it in her eyes.
“You can just see it in their eyes. I can tell a crazy woman by the look in her eyes.”
5. She likes to destroy things.
“Any woman who lights things on fire or throws things out the window, instead of trying to deal with the situation. In my experience, that’s what makes a girl crazy.”
6. She constantly uses suicide as a threat.
“I used to date a woman who would threaten suicide every time we got into a fight. She’d usually run to the roof of the apartment building and threaten to jump, but one time she locked herself in the bathroom with a knife to her throat. I’d say that’s crazy.”