Ask yourself, “Why am I still single?”
It may be because fear of commitment issues is keeping you in a cycle of unhealthy relationships. You may just have a commitment phobia.
Love, trust, communication, and commitment are the foundation of a long-term relationship.
Commitment is the dedicated cause you give to someone. You are willing to give your time and effort to someone because they are important to you.
In healthy relationships, you are ready to do anything you can to stand firm on the decision and promise you have made to yourself and to the person who is important to you so you can maintain the level and quality of your relationship.
Most people who are in a relationship see commitment as a good thing because it creates a bond to a person and helps them maintain the desire of making their relationship work for the foreseeable future.
There are also some individuals who have a fear of commitment and having a long-term romantic partner. They commonly experience emotional and mental distress when they find themselves facing a situation that requires them to give any sort of dedication to someone.
How would you know if you have commitment issues?
Here are 6 signs you’re afraid of commitment in a relationship:
1. You find it hard to commit in other areas of your life
People who have difficulties committing to a person or in a relationship are generally experiencing mental and emotional distress when faced with a situation where they need to be dedicated, and that requires them to stick around for a longer period of time.
Your commitment phobia may lead you to willingly and unwillingly reject or avoid opportunities that come into your life.
2. You keep falling for the wrong guy
Do you feel that you are always picking the wrong guy? Experts explained that the reason why most women always fall for the wrong guy is that they have commitment issues.
They either fall for guys who are unavailable or for “bad boy” type guys because they subconsciously know that those types are not into long-term relationships. They might even be attracted to guys with commitment issues because they subconsciously know that they also feel the same way about being in a relationship.
3. You are always indecisive with your new partner
You have the inability to stick with or make any decision about your relationship. You tend to lose interest in your partner easily and avoid them.
You are also unsure if you are happy in your relationship or if you should make a change. Thus, you drag your partner out of your life and break up pretty quickly.
4. You have a fear of being left alone
The fear of abandonment is a probable result of childhood loss or trauma, past relationships, and experiences in life.
As a result, the impact of this fear in your relationship will cause you to be hesitant to commit to a relationship. You jump from one relationship to another and move on pretty quickly to avoid being emotionally attached to a person.
You also find it difficult to have emotional intimacy with your partner.
5. You only engage in casual hookups
There are several reasons why women engage in casual relationships or hookups. Some women are goal-oriented and focus much of their time working rather than looking for a serious relationship.
There are also some women who are in a post-breakup phase, and they are not ready to get into a serious relationship at the moment. Whatever the reason might be, it only shows that you don’t want to be tied down to anyone.
6. You’ve convinced yourself that commitment is something that you really don’t want
This is an obvious sign of commitment phobia because you have a lot of bad things to say about relationships and a lot of good things to say about being single.
The reason why you keep on justifying that being in a relationship is not good and that being single is much better is that that’s what you want for yourself.
You also tend to end your relationships by coming up with silly excuses like your partner is a noisy eater or your partner is too good for you and you don’t deserve your partner.
The reason why you do this is that you doubt yourself. You are scared to admit that the problem is you so you’ve convinced yourself that your partner is not the one for you.
Esther Bilbao is a mentor to women so they can have better relationships, health, and personal development. Get dating advice that could change your life with her “Relationship Ready: Meet And Attract Your Perfect Life Partner” course.