The quest to find our one true soulmate is always at the forefront of our minds. In fact, it’s basically impossible to avoid the immense desire to find our person when romantic comedies are flooding our Instagram pages, and most of our friends are getting engaged or married.
It’s no wonder that we end up feeling more alone than ever before, with a pint of ice cream watching Netflix with our furry friend by our side on the regular.
However, when we start thinking that being alone is terrible, settling for someone who is less than perfect can lead to toxic or unhealthy romantic relationships. It’s become such a problem that we often forget what it means to have finally found the one.
Your forever person will affect your life in more ways than just putting a smile on your face or giving you butterflies.
Here are some of the fantastic reasons why:
1. Your person will support you.
No matter how big your dreams may be or how weird your quirks are, your soulmate will understand and support you. Even if they don’t get it, they will be there for you through all of the ups and downs!
When you find yourself trying to meet a work deadline, he will be right there by your side, supplying you with all the caffeine and snacks you need to make it through. Your true love will be your biggest cheerleader and celebrate your successes and accomplishments.
2. Your person actually listens when you speak.
When we vent about how our boss is annoying us or how our best friend flaked on us for the second time in a row, he will lend his ear without any complaints. In fact, your person will actually pay attention whenever you speak. You know you’ve found your true love when they never forget what you say when you say it, and how you say it.
3. The trust is totally there with your person.
Trust is such an essential component of any healthy romantic relationship. In fact, you know you’ve found your person when you can spend the night with the girls while he spends the night with his guys and not freak out. Having time to spend with your respective friends is crucial for any healthy relationship.
As a result, trusting that your partner will be a pure gentleman while out with his boys is necessary. Only your soulmate will give you the worry-free night to spend watching Netflix and just relax by yourself.
4. There is no need to constantly be doing something with your person.
When you can binge-watch the latest season of Shameless together, you know you’ve found your person. Not every day has to be full of activities for the two of you to do together. Sometimes, chilling out is needed for a relationship to find its groove.
In fact, from the minute you wake up, you know it’ll be an adventure because nothing can ever be uneventful when you have your soulmate by your side.
5. Your person lifts you up.
Not physically, but emotionally. Having someone who actually pushes you to be your best self is someone you want to keep close to. In fact, we all have those days when we really don’t feel our best. Some days we may feel bloated, while other days we may feel like huge failures.
When we have found our person, they will make sure we don’t feel bad about ourselves. They are there to lift our confidence when we need it most. Your person will make sure that you feel like the most special person in a room.
6. Honesty is not an issue with your person.
If that dress isn’t that flattering on you or those pants are just a little too tight, your soulmate isn’t afraid to let you know. In fact, it’s not that they want to offend you, it’s just that your forever person values honesty in your relationship.
Having someone who wants you to be the best version of yourself is someone that genuinely cares about your wellbeing. He will tell you when you’ve made a terrible decision and keep you accountable for your shopping habits.
In the end, having someone who is always on your side is a surefire sign that you have found your person. Having a soulmate who respects, loves, and is honest with you is the only way to sustain a healthy romantic relationship!
Zoya Gervis is a New York-based freelance writer, who has been featured in The Sun, New York Post, The Herald Sun, Elite Daily, and more. Her writing focuses on entertainment, news, and various scientific studies
This article was originally published at Unwritten. Reprinted with permission from the author.