Remember, you can’t make everyone happy all of the time. First, you have to put yourself, your needs and your happiness above all others. Do what you need to do for you before you concern yourself with what other people may think or worry about what they might say.
This can be especially hard for those who have a personality that needs a lot of justification for what you are doing because you don’t want to do the wrong thing. But relying on other people to tell you how to live your life is not a good way to approach living. Having others make decisions about your life for you takes you out of your life — and you are not the one creating your own path.
I know from personal experience that it is super hard to stop being a people pleaser — some days I just want to be told that I am doing something right. It’s hard putting yourself first when all you are looking for is affirmations that you are succeeding in life and people are happy with what you are doing. But we should not rely on other people’s opinions about our lives and then adjust to living “socially correct.”
I know that most of us want to make other people happy and don’t want to do anything to upset them or make them look at you negatively, but that means we start policing ourselves so much that we aren’t original to ourselves anymore.
We get so worried about what other people will say if we do something or look a certain way that it’s almost like we fall behind into the background and that isn’t fair to you.
The overall wish that I hope you take away from this article is that it is OK to be yourself. It’s OK to learn how to be happy on your own, so stop trying to be who you think others want you to be. You are beautiful, strong, smart and follow your heart.
So, here are some straightforward, sassy quotes to show that you aren’t the only one out there that are struggling with balancing making yourself and others happy as well. But you should focus on making yourself happy first instead of others, because whether you want to please everyone or not, you can’t always make everyone happy all the time, so might as well focus on what makes you happy instead.
1. You are only responsible for your own happiness.
“Don’t feel bad for making decisions that upset other people. You’re not responsible for their happiness, you’re responsible for yours.” —Unknown
2. There is no way.
“No matter how much you try, you can’t make everybody happy.” —Unknown
3. What others think of you has nothing to do with who you are.
“People will love you. People will hate you. And none of it will have anything to do with you.” —Abraham Hicks
4. All appeasing everyone else can do is bring you stress, frustration, and misery.
“Trying to please everyone is a recipe for stress, misery and frustration. Be yourself. It’ll be good to know who’s down with that.” —Unknown
5. Happiness is your choice.
“We can’t control the world. We can only (barely) control our own reactions to it. Happiness is largely a choice, not a right or entitlement.” —David C. Hill
6. Don’t lose yourself in the process of trying to make everyone happy.
“Don’t be afraid of losing people. Be afraid of losing yourself by trying to please everyone around you.” —Unknown
7. You are not responsible for everyone’s happiness.
‘You have permission to rest. You are not responsible for fixing everything that is broken. You do not have to try and make everyone happy. For now, take time for you. It’s time to replenish.” —Unknown
8. You can never make everyone happy at the same time.
“You can’t be afraid of what people are going to say, because you’re never going to make everyone happy.” —Selena Gomez
9. Don’t concern yourself with other people’s happiness.
“Most of us believe in trying to make other people happy only if they can be happy in ways which we approve.” —Robert S. Lynd
10. There is no reason for you to feel hopeless.
“I think the saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy because they know what it’s like to feel absolutely worthless and they don’t want anyone else to feel like that.” —Robin Williams
11. You make a better impression if you take the time to give compliments then judge.
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” —Mother Theresa
12. All it takes is compassion.
“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” —Dalai Lama
13. Just be you!
“Just be you. Do what you love. I’ve learned that in the end, you can’t make everyone happy no matter what you say or do, some people will never be happy or like you.” —Unknown
14. Follow your key to success, not someone else’s.
“I can’t tell you the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.” —Ed Sheeran
15. You can’t make everyone happy.
“It’s sad when you can’t make everyone happy, though. It’s impossible but, at the same time, you still hope. You think, ‘Maybe I can do it,’ but you know you can’t. But gosh, if I had to rely on giving people what they wanted, I would have had to write 40 billion different books and even then, I wouldn’t get it right.” —Stephenie Meyer
16. Do what you love.
“And then there is the most dangerous risk of all – the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later.” —Randy Komisar
17. People will love you for who you are.
“You can’t always please everybody, but you can do what makes you happy and just hope that those around you will be happy for you.” —Unknown
18. You have to do what you want and not worry about others.
“You can’t make everyone happy right away. You can’t figure out what people want you to do. You just have to do what you want to do and hope it works out.” —Rob Zombie
19. You will fail if you try to please everyone all of the time.
“I can’t give you a sure-fire formula for success, but I can give you a formula for failure: try to please everybody all the time.” —Herbert Bayard Swope
20. Don’t let others control your life when they don’t deserve it.
“Stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings and emotions.” —Will Smith
21. When you are happy, nothing can tare you down.
“Smiling is definitely one of the best beauty remedies. If you have a good sense of humor and a good approach to life, that’s beautiful.” —Rashida Jones
22. You are the only one in control of your happiness.
“Happiness is not something readymade. It comes from your own actions.” —Dalai Lama
23. You have to do yourself justice.
“I know I can’t make everyone happy, but I know I can do the most justice I can possibly do to a character, or any character, if I put my all into it. That’s the choice you have to make.” —Henry Cavil
24. Be proud of who you are.
“No matter how hard you try, you can never please everyone. Folow your heart, make the most of every day, and be proud of who you are.” —John Cena
25. Chocolate fixes everything.
“You can’t make everybody happy. You are not chocolate.” —Unknown
Emily Francos is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture and relationship topics.