Have you ever been having a nice time with a longtime friend of yours and he suddenly comes out of nowhere with an “I love you”?
You were having fun, laughing at a horrible joke one of you made, and then all of a sudden he gets serious and lays his heart out for you.
How do you react? You didn’t have a clue how he felt?
And now you’re wondering how you could’ve missed the signs.
Well, you aren’t alone. Many women have been oblivious to men who have strong feelings for them.
But to be fair, sometimes when guys fall in love, they make it a bit hard to read them.
However, if you pay close attention to his actions, you could’ve probably guessed he was crushing on you.
So, what you should do is keep an eye out around guys who do things like these, because they may actually be signs he loves you.
Here are the undeniable signs he has strong feelings for you.
1. It always seems like he has something more he wants to say.
More often than not, guys know they want to tell you how they feel but they often worry that they can’t.
Whether it’s because you’re dating his friend or because he’s just terrified of admitting feelings, it’s shocking how many guys out there will just bottle it up because they feel like they just can’t say something.
If your gut says he wants to say more, chances are he does.
2. He seems like he’s scared to tell you his true feelings about random subjects.
You’d be surprised at how many guys will also turn into total doormats around girls they like. If he regularly rolls over or backpedals, he’s way more into you than he lets on.
3. He seems to make a point out of being super chivalrous.
When a guy goes out of his way to treat you delicately, it’s usually for a special reason. If he regularly buys you drinks but doesn’t do the same for other girls, he might see you as more than just a friend.
4. When other girls are around him in your presence, he makes a point of distancing himself from them.
Guys will often make a point of showing who they want to be with, even if girls are already all over them.
5. When you two talk over the phone, there’s always a long pause.
This goes hand in hand with the whole “wanting to say more” thing. When a guy is interested in you but feels like he has no chance, he often won’t know what to say. Ergo, he’ll start having awkward pauses.
6. He goes full Papa Bear on you.
If a guy is into you, there’s a very high chance that he’ll get protective or even a bit possessive of you. If you notice that he regularly gets macho around other guys, he might end up confessing his feelings for you.
7. He seems particularly hurt if you go on an anti-male rant around him.
I will admit I’m very guilty of this one, particularly because I’m so badly burnt by dating men. And my rants are known for being scathing.
I know for a fact most guys will wither a bit hearing my honest-to-god opinion of their gender’s dating habits, but with my close friend, he would legitimately tear up. The reason why is because hearing my rants often made him feel inadequate, too.
8. You get the feeling he’s trying to impress you.
If someone has a crush on you, they will try to flaunt themselves around you.
9. Mutual friends point out that you two would be cute together.
When this happened with me and my close friend, I was pretty oblivious to the fact that my close friend probably asked female friends for help. But, yes, if other female friends of his gently nudge you towards him, he may be really into you.
10. When you two are alone, he’s clearly nervous.
Body language is a great indicator of nerves. Whether it’s turning beet red and choking on words, avoiding eye contact and squirming, or just having verbal diarrhea, most of the time, girls will know when guys are nervous around them.
Guys don’t get nervous from people they see as “just friends,” capiche?
11. He talks about you to other people.
If his friends and family already knew about you before you met them, that’s a sign that he was excited for you to meet them, meaning he’s excited about you being a part of his life. When meeting the people in his life goes smoothly (like they already know you), he’s got a thing for you.
12. He’ll smile a lot around you.
If he has strong feelings for you, you will cause him to smile often. If you notice that he is almost always happy when you are around him, he could possibly be hiding his feelings of undying love for you is all I’m going to say.
13. He flirts naturally with you.
If a guy is into you and has developed feelings his flirting will be more smooth and natural because he pays attention to what you like and what rubs you the wrong way. The keyword here is “pays attention.” A guy doesn’t pay attention for no reason, I’m just saying.
Beware of this sign though because some guys are just natural flirts; it’s their personality.
14. He remembers the little things.
If a guy has feelings for you and I mean the string would die for you kind of feelings, he’ll remember the tiniest of details about you. Whether it’s how your eyes look in the sunlight or why you have a scar on your left knee.
He’ll remember that you don’t like the color yellow because it reminds you of your great Aunt Bertha who wore sickly yellow glasses that freaked you out when you were five. *cringes*
15. Your opinion matters and he respects you.
He cares about your opinion, whether it’s about him or about the new ice cream flavor at Baskin Robbins. Whatever it is, your opinion is a top priority to him and he will listen to what you have to say. He will also respect your thoughts and boundaries.
16. He’ll use social media to stay in contact with you.
If a guy is into you social media may be able to tell you before he does. If he isn’t spending time with you, he’ll be on your social media. He’ll be super active and engaging by liking every post and commenting cheeky remarks.
If he’s always the first one to like your picture on Instagram, dude’s got it bad for you.
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a writer based out of Red Bank, New Jersey. She writes primarily about lifestyle, food, finance, and relationships. You can follow her Twitter.