Daddy Dom and little girl relationships, also known as DDlg or DD/lg relationships, are among the most commonly misunderstood of the various types of passionate loving relationships that fall under the umbrella of BDSM kink.
I can understand why, at first glance, seeing a Dominant referred to as “Daddy” or “Mommy” and a submissive referred to as “little girl” — or baby girl,” “boy,” “boi,” or a variant along those lines — could appear, well, creepy.
However, as the DDlg quotes below show, these cute relationships are typically quite healthy and loving.
What is a Daddy Dom?
A Daddy Dom is a dominant partner (typically male, but not always) who cares for, nurtures, and assumes responsibility for their submissive, typically referred to as their little or baby girl. Talk about freaky relationship goals.
Daddy Doms may serve as a paternal figure, but that should not be mistaken to mean the people involved in DDlg relationships are in any way involved or approving of incest or pedophilia.
“The Daddy Dom indulges, edifies, and chastises his childlike, submissive partner, who may be both emotionally and financially dependent upon him,” explains Miya Yamanouchi. “The partner to a ‘Daddy’ (or ‘Mommy’) is a ‘little girl’ or (‘little boy’)… [a submissive who] enjoys being treated like a child by her lover, most commonly calling her partner ‘Daddy’ both in and out of the bedroom.”
Many people consider BDSM synonymous with the more old-fashioned, somewhat outdated label “S&M” — sadomasochistic relationships in which one person, the Master or Mistress, has complete control, while the other, the “slave,” is a willing victim and subject to his or her Dom or Domme’s every whim. This dynamic is generally thought of by many in the Vanilla (non-kinky) community less as a relationship and more as an abusive arrangement between a violator and a victim.
There are, of course, exceptions to every rule, and abusive relationships, unfortunately, exist within the BDSM community as they do everywhere else. But there are many types of Dominants and submissives, and most are perfectly healthy, high-functioning people involved in perfectly healthy, high-functioning relationships.
And while some of these relationships are sadomasochistic (hence the SM at the end of BDSM), that is only one end of the kinky spectrum. On the other end, you have Daddy doms and their baby girls.
Picture all of the best parts of what an ideal Daddy provides: warmth, strength, measured humor, discipline as needed, undivided attention, nurturing, caregiving, stability, support, and unconditional love.
Now picture the best parts of what the best baby girl provides: laughter, joy, silliness, fun, playfulness, warmth, affection beyond belief, beauty, awe, excitement, mental and physical challenges, and unconditional love. Who wouldn’t want a relationship that includes a constant give and take between those qualities?
You don’t have to take my word for it, of course.
These 15 DDlg quotes about Daddy Doms and littles illustrate exactly how passionate, loving, and not all creepy their relationships can be.
1. “Anything for my Princess. Anything for my Daddy.” — King Baby Boys
2. “‘I need,’ she whispers. ‘I know, little one,’ he replies. ‘How?’ she asks. ‘You’re mine. I always know.’ She sighs.” — Sir Daddy Kitten
3. “Your Daddy’s right here. While you sleep I’ll protect you.” — Dom Dominator
4. “There is just something about his strong hands. When he grips me with passion, I feel so secure and wanted. It is pure bliss.” — Princess Pufferfish
5. “I want to do things so wild with you that I don’t know how to say them.” — Anais Nin, “A Literate Passion: Letters of Anaïs Nin & Henry Miller, 1932-1953”
6. “Protector, lover, guide, friend.” — Captain Bro
7. “It’s been too long, hasn’t it, peach? Should I let you come now so you’re able to focus on our lesson?” — Kendall Ryan, “The Gentleman Mentor”
8. “Meet me in the corridor of your soul. Invite me to the hidden chambers. Show me the light behind your eyes. Teach me the rhythm of your blood. You are the secret I crave to discover.” — Dean Jackson
9. “Intimacy is not purely physical: It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see inside their soul.” — Mr. Daddy Dom
10. “I want to make love to you because I care about you. I want to worship your naked body with my own and learn all of your secrets.” ― Sylvain Reynard, “Gabriel’s Inferno”
11. “I want to control you, command you, dominate you, and use you. And then I want to touch you, hold you, kiss you, and make you feel safe.” — Daddy Rules
12. “A Daddy Dom only has so much power because it is given to him by his submissive. This power should be treasured, used wisely and respected. When this fails, the submissive has the right to take that power away.” — D.D.
13. “Close your eyes babygirl. Daddy’s here now. Let your worries go. I’ll take care of everything.” — Daddy Pumpkin
14. “Can you feel me? Can you hear me? Can you sense my presence? I’m with you, always. Even when you think I’m not.” — Sir Bunny Bun
15. “I represent to you all the sins you have never had the courage to commit.” — Oscar Wilde, “The Picture Of Dorian Gray”
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