Women have an arsenal of things we say when we aren’t into someone. We also use body language cues and eye rolls that could freeze an unwanted man right in his footsteps.
But men? Well, they’re sometimes knocked for being less verbal — which isn’t necessarily true or accurate.
Perhaps they’re saying plenty to us, but maybe the message isn’t translating as they’re intending it to or we’re missing something in their signals.
But if you want to know if a guy likes you, there are quite a few phrases men use when speaking with a woman they see as more than just a friend.
So listen up, ladies.
Below is a list of 11 things men say to women when they’re interested in them big time.
If the man you like says or texts these things to you, consider them positive signs that the guy likes you.
1. “This reminded me of you.”
He won’t always say he’s thinking of you because he might want to avoid being too direct to spare his feelings from being hurt.
He will say that something reminded him of you because he’s thinking about you and wants you to know without taking the risk of truly saying so.
2. “I can help you with that.”
Men like to be needed. They want to feel helpful. If they are offering to help you with something, they are over the top into you.
Men only do things for women they truly care about… or sometimes for an “end goal.” But if he’s throwing around his help like he’s a do-gooder, he’s into you.
3. “You look great.”
If he tells you that you look great, stop over-analyzing and speculating what he really means. He really thinks you look great and wants you to know that.
Drink in those compliments!
4. “I was talking to my mom…”
If he name-drops mom and tells you what he was sharing with them, he’s either your BFF or he’s into you.
Guys don’t wax poetic typically over what they do or say to their family members, but especially their moms. Talking about his mom to you in any sort of way can signal he’s vulnerable to you. Even if he’s open to talking about her, you have his trust.
5. “I’m upset/mad/worried.”
If a man willingly admits to feeling an emotion other than happy or “just OK,” he’s into you enough to show you a vulnerability that he does not typically reveal.
6. “Where have you been? What are you doing?”
Asking you questions about what you’re doing or where you are? He likes you!
As long as he’s not doing it all the time, he’s not a stalker; instead, he’s a dude who’s into you.
7. “You are so sexy.”
Sure, he may have said that to a billion other women, but when he whips out that gem, he’s down to get in bed with you and is into you.
Whether he’s romantically inclined or not is another ball game entirely.
8. “I noticed you…”
If he throws out a phrase that he noticed you do, say, wear, or eat (you name the verb) any sort of action, he’s paying serious attention to who you are as a person, and not because he wants to be your best friend for life.
9. “I miss you.”
He misses you? Oh, girl, men never like to say schmaltzy stuff like this unless they’re super-sensitive or romantic types that live off swooning each day over some babe.
If he’s telling you he misses you even if you’re in that new uncertain stage, you have set an anchor into his heart, for sure.
10. “I’ll be there for you.”
Not just a Bon Jovi song, but also a phrase that rolls off the lips of a man who is seriously digging you. If he says anything else similar like …
“I’ll be around if you need me.”
“Do you have anyone to talk to about that?”
“I’m happy to listen.”
… he’s sharing that he wants to be a part of your life and he won’t just let you sit on the sidelines idly.
11. He calls you a pet name.
If he calls you any type of nickname other than your last name, he’s decided he needs to make you his.
If he calls you by your last name, he either views you as a comrade or perhaps he’s simply sarcastic and takes a more teasing approach with women he’s into.
Laura Lifshitz is a voice-over actress, comedienne, former MTV personality and Columbia University graduate who writes about divorce, women’s issues, fitness, parenting, marriage and more for YourTango, The New York Times, DivorceForce, Women’s Health, Working Mother, Pop Sugar, and more.